One of my favorite moments of the past year was being admonished by one of my followers for my liking posts from a variety of sex-workers from the Bunny Ranch over in Nevada. So many folks I know get all pissed off when Christians toss their morality all over what they do as Pagans, but may the heavens rain frogs and fire on you for showing support of folks who make a living in a manner that doesn’t mesh with their own squeamish nature concerning sex.
Let’s be clear about something before I get too far past the second paragraph. These are folks who chose their profession, not individuals who are forced into prostitution for whatever reason. Human trafficking is a foul, disgusting practice that I completely disagree with and fight completely against. The individuals that I support chose their profession for a variety of reasons, but not because they were forced into it. Now with that caveat out of the way, let’s step back to where I was originally headed…
We all rail against various things that we dislike and for a variety of reasons. However, I am left to wonder how often, we think of how the other side of that perspective may see things? Do we just react with a knee-jerk reaction to something because we are uncomfortable with a perspective, or have we really thought through the myriad of perspectives that are part of things?
A singular instance that recently occurred is the debate of the memorial aspect to the Confederate states in the American Civil War. Certainly, much of the debate was centered around the aspect of slavery, but a scan of American History shows that this was one of a wide-range of factors that led to the violent clash of political sides within this country. To paint the Civil War as primarily (or even solely) centered on the idea of race is to ignore large aspects of entire secession movement that occurred, and to dismiss much of those arguments as being minor or invalid in the entire aspect of what took place.
Now, there will be those that will take my position as a measure of advocacy for racism. If that is the case, all I can do is shrug my shoulders and move on. Its not my point, nor am I trying to minimize that aspect. What I am trying to showcase is that much of the manner in which we approach delicate or inconvenient topics is to paint things in terms of “this or that” with no measure or understanding of the middle ground or any other complex mixture of other issues.
However, as I have observed over the past few years, there’s very little measure or respect for understanding the context of any aspect. My support for sex workers, some of whom are very dear friends of mine, has likely had me branded as a “dirty old man” or a “pervert” – a pair of terms that hold no measure of branding with me. Unlike many Americans, I see no shame or dirtiness in the nude form or in the act of sexual intercourse. Nor do I see any shame or vile aspect where sex workers are concerned. I see people trying to make it through their lives, one day at a time. Who am I to judge how they manage it?
In our “woke” society, we certainly do a lot of talking about how we understand and work on complex issues. My experience, on the other hand, suggests that doesn’t really hold true for every perspective. Would we ever get to the point where we can truly work on these complex, difficult and sometimes inconvenient issues? I think we can, but first, we have to really open ourselves up to the idea that everyone’s perspective has validity to it – even those that we don’t agree at all with. And to be honest, I’d hate to live in a world where everyone’s opinion is the same as mine…what a boring place that would be. And yes, I do realize and respect that there are folks who will not agree with what I have written here or nearly anything else that I have written. 🙂